The first time is always the hardest. Right? Well, in my case, that’s not so. Definitely, the second time is harder for me. Looking back to a many I started, I threw myself into any situation and tried it. Most of the time, I came out of the situation quite well and the result was way better than expected. But then the little voice in my head started whispering to me: “What, if you cannot repeat it? The first time, you got lucky. Beginners luck!”
After doing things for the first time, I then became aware of errors and mistakes, or just thinking, of what could have done better. So, the ease was gone. I tried to avoid the mistakes from the first time, everything get stuck, wasn’t flowing like the first time. Suddenly, people weren’t that supporting anymore. The situation had changed and I “learned”, I shouldn’t try another time.
Now, looking back on some of the things I did once or twice, i.e. giving a speech to a group of people, doing sales cold calls, shooting a youtube video, talking to girls, I realise, that i wasn’t willing to show myself vulnerable or presenting myself as “stupid”.
“Everything you’ve ever wanted is right outside your comfort zone.” I heard this often, and probably understood it on a mental level. But when I said “This is nothing for me!” or “I’m not a <blank> person” I was just rationalise my own bullshit.
If you want to be tougher, be tougher.
And my favourite quote from Jim Rohn “Discipline is remembering what you want.”
So, here I go, starting with the intention to go for the long distance.